Reflection is a trusted tool as ancient as humankind. Those who came before us realized the same truth that we now see: answers to problems that seem to make no sense at all are often inside and accessible when we take the time to look.

Of course, how we look makes a difference, too. When a high-stakes problem has us completely buffaloed, genuine curiosity can be a tough frame of mind to reach.

That’s when a tool that’s suited to your personality can be a Godsend. For some, a method like Kegan’s Immunity to Change can give access to information that has resisted us for years. For others, journaling opens those doors. And for others walking a labyrinth is it.

The courage to ask “What’s trying to happen?” works like a dousing rod: it directs your attention to the tool that will serve you best.